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Ok, for the second time tonight, I was sitting thinking of top 10 lists for the top 10 list thread and I thought, ok... "10 things that make you more attractive to a potential partner", that could work, that might not be so boring or freaky, could get the odd giggle or even a smile from a special person if they like your effort... Kinda following on from that other thread which I made that huge post in about getting a woman... So off I go to Google see what I can dig up and boy... Some of these people are gonna be single forever if they actually think some of the crap they write actually works... Right anyway, i've been around a while, got a few life experiences and the likes, have a bit of self confidence, no what I want and the likes, so I started writing a list, so off I go furiously typing a way, not a care in the world, writing all this stuff down and thinking hmmm not bad... This turns into a second hmmm... Not good... This turns into a 3rd hmmmm... OMG this is terrible... I'm writing a pron novel here... This isn't how you make yourself more attractive, this is basically how you get a quick shag or a slap round the face... (this is about 50 things into the list)
So, back to Google we go, different search words this time, trying to be smarter and actually find something which is likely to be a little more useful to me...
Well... I found what I was looking for in the end, but at the same time, I thought I can't use this for a silly top ten list, it's actually kinda a good guide and some of our lot on TF might be able to actually get something out of it (well you know, as much as I love having you all around and wot not, i'd much prefer it if you were all off snuggled up with your boy/girlfriend snuggling and stuff)
So, after much pondering and all that kinda nonesense that you do at 3 am, I arrived at my final list of 10... So here ya go... I hope someone takes one tip from it and has a really happy time because of it:
Please take into account that this is an individual thing and in some cases would not melt butter in a hot oven.
Partially mine, partially adapted:
How To Be More Attractive To Someone
Number 10 Dress appropriately
At the risk of making too much of a generalization as individual tastes also come into this, the hottest woman in the room will almost certainly knows a thing or two about style and fashion sense. If you're wearing a shirt that can be dated back to when the "Macarena" was all the rage, it's time to update your wardrobe.
You don't need a Valentino belt or Kenneth Cole shoes, but you should make yourself look hip, trendy and make sure that, at the very least, your clothes are clean, wrinkle-free, and match.
Number 9 Be original
Beautiful women have probably heard every cheesy pickup line known to man, usually uttered by guys who think they're so slick, just because they may drive a flash car or have a fat wedge of cash. In reality they are just seriously lame and 9 times out of tame they'll be the ones left using their hand.
Try to get the ball rolling without opening with a compliment. You can make a comment about how good or bad the music is, or how crowded the place is getting. You may very well be the first guy who didn't throw himself at her feet, and she may end up spending the rest of the night hanging out with you.
Number 8 Don't give her too much attention
Sad but true and i'm guilty of this too: Most beautiful women are used to getting all the attention. A great way to distance yourself from the other hound dogs is by not making her the focal point of your whole evening.
If, for example, you see her sitting in a coffee shop, sit next to her but wait before getting her attention. Once you've managed to exchange a few words, give her some time alone and pay attention to something or someone else for a while.
Whether or not she appreciates not being the center of your universe, at least you're sending the message that you're different from other men, which is always a plus.
This one is actually very difficult to achieve, especially when you are eager, very fond of them and they are giving all the right signals.
Number 7 Do some research
As previously suggested, most hot women have a fondness for fashion, so you may want to strike up a "fashionable" conversation.
Look into some of the leading female designers, and find out what the current trends are. If, for example, she's wearing a pink shirt, you can say, "I hear pink is out of style this season." And follow up with, "Made you nervous, didn't I?" and a smile. Or, you can inquire about whatever perfume she's wearing, assuming you know a thing or two about feminine scents. It may sound cheesy, but providing you don't go overboard you 'll be fine; knowing as much about women's clothes as she does may make her question what you're all about, if you know what I mean.
Number 6 Get help from girl mates
A deceptive yet harmless tactic, getting some female friends of yours to sing your praises in her presence may make her do a double take.
Have some women "accidentally" run into you and compliment you on how great you're looking while inquiring if you're still single, within earshot of the girl you want of course. Having some female endorsements will validate you in her eyes, and she may welcome your advances with open arms, among other things.
Number 5 Find a quiet spot
Perfect for any bar or club, assuming you've engaged her in a nice discussion, suggest relocating to a place that's a little quieter. This way, you'll be able to have some alone time while shielding her from the sex-starved predators waiting to make their move (remember, you're not one of them).
Number 4 Avoid sex talk
Forget about kissing, holding hands and above all else, going all the way. The truth is that most guys are only interested in the hot ladies for one reason, and you don't want to be like those men. If you really want to be original, seduce her with your genuine warm personality and avoid any physical contact or suggestive behavior. This way, she'll know you're interested in her for her and not just some one-night stand.
Number 3 Take it slow
As you may have guessed by now, there is a direct link between a hot woman and sex. The hotter they are, the more aroused men get, and the more they want to score (for lack of a better term). The women in question are fully aware of men's intentions, including their pitiful attempts to get them in the backseats of their cars, bed, park bench or where ever else.
That's why it's important for you take things slow. Let her decide, free of pressure, if she wants to give you her number or head to the backseat. Offering her a ride home is okay, as long as you don't seem too forward and don't presume your getting coffee or more.
Number 2 Focus on her personality
If you plan on complimenting her, stick to her less obvious qualities. That means more laughing at her jokes and less juvenile remarks about her great backside.
Everyone knows she's gorgeous, including herself, so you might as well take notes on those less tangible areas that don't get enough credit. Remember, the key is to elevate yourself above every other guy in the room.
Number 1 Be confident
The best thing you can do for yourself in a situation like this is hold your head up high and stay positive. Tell yourself that you have as much of a shot with her as anyone else. And as you introduce yourself, maintain eye contact, try not to ramble and don't show any signs of nervousness.
A confident man stands less of a chance of being dismissed and by showing her that she doesn't intimidate you, you may wind up stimulating her curiosity… unless the Greek gods are all she's looking for, in which case you're probably better off without her.
I'm actually still working on this one myself, even I get nervous when I like someone a lot.
hot or not
Of course the hot ones are really nice to look at, and you'll soon discover that they're human just like the rest of us. The worst part though is that sometimes, the ones that are nicest to look at, may end up possessing nothing more than premium packaging. But hey, we all like 'em hot.
Re: Ten Ways To Make Someone More Attracted To You!
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Originally Posted by Lilana
Obviously written by a man!
I will say no more on this subject.
Actually, most of the actual 10 points were written by a woman.
I'd say a lot of it goes down to the individual person involved anyway.
There's lots of types of women out their, biatches, innocence, power hungry, self confident, unconfident, shy, energetic, talkative, reclusive, flirtatious, etc, just in the same way as most men will also have traits that could be similar to that.
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Originally Posted by Craig123
11) get them drunk
That's the cheap tart way of getting laid...
Someone ends up with bad feelings afterwards, normally the girl who feels used.
So you say what do I care, I aint gonna see them again... True in most cases, but think, every time a girl gets put through that, that is one girl who is gonna have a slightly bitter edge... Some bloke is gonna suffer cause of that...
Yes I know it sounds hypocrytical but it's true you know...
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Whats so wrong about finding a nice normal, pretty girl that doesnt have her head up her own arse to make you feel like you need those rules.
Just be yourself Det, youre pretty good at being a nice guy, Im sure lots of women out there want a decent bloke to share themselves with.
Rules, chat up lines etc are a load of tosh, the right woman will find you without all that speil.
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Originally Posted by Sash
Just be yourself Det, youre pretty good at being a nice guy, Im sure lots of women out there want a decent bloke to share themselves with.
I don't have a choice to be honest, I don't have any wierd and wonderful secret personalities like some people, i'm pretty much as in what you see is what you get, I couldn't change if I tried now, not that i'd want to, to be honest, except maybe toughen up a little when it comes to business.
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Originally Posted by xmatildax
yeahhhhh, but not too vulnerable, it makes them too clingy :/
There's a fine line between clingy and caring though surely?
I'd say that, that is down to the individual.
Some people crave attention and like to hear it regularly but not because they are clingy, just because they care for that person and like to here from them or maybe in some cases, they don't care at all they just want the attention anyway, where as others pick and choose at will, where, why and how they show their feelings and emotions, then yes there are also those that constantly need reassurance, because they lack self comfidence of self belief and I can see why that would be seen as clingy, I don't think it necessarily means it is though, I'd say in some cases it could be down to upbringing or lack of love in their world or what not.
Personally, I like be spoiled with the stuff, not a vulnerable thing or a needing it constantly or anything like that really, I'm a romantic at heart, I like to know the person cares about me, I mean hell, i've gone long enough without hearing nice things said about me, by some of the people in my life that are supposed to care. I'm sure everyone has there own stories to tell with that one though anyhoo.
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